How Can You Tell You've Been Emotionally Abused?

November 28, 2022
Picture of man drinking at a bar because he suffers from emotional abuse

What precisely is emotional abuse, because not all forms of abuse are the same? Simply described, it's a type of abuse in which the abuser utilizes the victim's emotions to exert control over them. People who are emotionally abusive may injure and control their victim by using insults, criticism, threats, and other methods.


In contrast to a single occurrence, emotional or psychological abuse refers to a pattern of mistreatment. It can gradually skew the victim's view, causing them to lose confidence and suffer mental health consequences. It's important to be aware of the warning signals since this type of abuse can be hard to identify. Continue reading as we discuss examples of emotional abuse, warning flags everyone should be aware of, and how an online Psychiatrist may be of assistance.


  1. Emotional Abuse Warning Signs
  2. Illustrations of Emotional Abuse
  3. Emotional Abuse's Effects
  4. Combating Emotional Abuse
  5. Final Thoughts


Let’s begin! 


Emotional Abuse Warning Signs


Because it isn't always visible, emotional abuse can be challenging to see. Emotionally abusive persons go to tremendous lengths to influence victims and make the impact of their abuse appear less severe, even in situations when the mental abuse is more obvious. They frequently go so far as to deny that any abuse occurred.


Focusing on how actions make you feel might be beneficial while analyzing a relationship. Never forget that you deserve respect and kindness and that you should never tolerate any kind of abuse, whether it be physical, psychological, verbal, or any other kind. Examples of emotional abuse include:


  • Shaming
  • Ridiculing 
  • Criticizing 
  • Belittling 
  • Controlling
  • Manipulative 
  • Threatening 


Illustrations of Emotional Abuse


There are many distinct types of emotional abuse, and those who perpetrate them can injure their victims horribly in a variety of ways. According to studies, emotional abuse in a romantic or close relationship may be equally as damaging as physical violence. Examples of specific emotional abuse include:


  • Using emotions to manipulate conduct is known as emotional blackmail. An abuser, whether an intimate partner, verbally abusive parents, or a loved one, may make a demand and then use guilt, fear, or shame to get you to comply. Other typical strategies include withholding affection and treating someone poorly in silence.


  • Unreasonable expectations: Nothing you do will ever be sufficient when an abuser has unreasonable expectations. Someone who is abusive could insist that you spend all of your time with them or become upset if you forget specifics about what happened.


  • Invalidating your sentiments: An abuser will attempt to tell you how you should feel rather than recognizing your feelings. If you raise concerns, you can be labeled as insane or too sensitive. You can hear that you're needy or demanding if you try to convey your demands or requirements.

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  • The tendency for emotional abusers to be highly critical of everything a victim does is a prevalent nitpick. Your abuser might berate you for your appearance, speech, or even gait. This may give you the impression that you must move carefully in order to preserve the peace.


  • When you bring up disputes, incidents of abuse, or other occurrences, an abuser may argue that they never happened or that they happened far differently than you recall. This is known as gaslighting. You could start to distrust your memories, yourself, and eventually your mental health if you experience gaslighting in relationships.


Emotional Abuse's Effects


An abuser may assert that disagreements, instances of abuse, or other events never occurred or occurred very differently from what you remember. This practice is called gaslighting. If you've been gaslighted in relationships, you could begin to doubt your recollections, yourself, and eventually your mental health.


Temporary effects


It might be challenging for victims of emotional abuse to acknowledge their mistreatment. They might become perplexed by this or even believe they are to blame for the abuser's actions. Someone experiencing abuse may persistently experience:


  • Ashamed\sHopeless
  • Anxious\sFearful
  • Worried about what could occur in the future


Even when a victim is unaware that they are experiencing emotional abuse, it can still result in severe stress. Physical symptoms such as headaches, nausea, and aches and pains all over the body may be brought on by this level of stress. Sleep and focus may both be affected by abuse.


Permanent consequences


More than only short-term harm is caused by emotional abuse. Childhood emotional abuse affects brain development and increases the likelihood of depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues later in life for victims. The strain of mental abuse may affect the brain for a lifetime and even interfere with memory in adults.


Combating Emotional Abuse


You must first admit that you are being mistreated in order to cope with emotional abuse. You may take action to heal from emotional abuse rather than rationalizing the abuser's actions. The coping mechanisms listed below can assist you in overcoming abuse and moving on with your life.


Set limitations.


Declare that you won't put up with any more maltreatment from your emotional abuser. Set specific guidelines for improper behavior and strict penalties for it, such as cutting off communication or dissolving a relationship. If your emotional abuser tries to argue, end the discussion and reaffirm your relationship's boundaries.


Self-care is important.


Remind yourself that you are not to blame for the abuse you have received and that you have no obligation to your abuser. Instead, pay attention to your requirements and mental wellbeing. Tell others what you've been going through and take measures to regain your lost confidence.


Ask for assistance


You may recover from the harm your abuser has inflicted by understanding their actions by learning more about emotional abuse.


Because processing emotional abuse is difficult, you shouldn't attempt to go through it alone. You can get the advice and assistance you need from a mental health expert at this trying time.


Final Thoughts


Health includes your mental, physical, and emotional well-being. It’s important to take care of yourself and set boundaries. The act of controlling someone else emotionally by criticizing, humiliating, shaming, blaming, or otherwise manipulating them is known as emotional abuse. Mental or emotional abuse can happen in any relationship, including those with friends, family, and coworkers, despite being most frequent in dating and married relationships. The more you know about emotional abuse the better you’ll be able to protect yourself from the potential threat.

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