Why You Should Continue Online Counseling Even If It's Difficult

June 1, 2022
Person talking with a therapist receiving couseling

Online counseling is difficult. It’s not an easy process because you’re working on your vulnerabilities. It doesn’t matter how eager you are to change. During your treatment, there will come a time when you don’t like it. For example, you might experience a panic attack during a session or discover some painful realities about your personality.


Sometimes counseling is dull or you suspect your therapist is bored because you keep talking about the same things week after week. It doesn’t appear that nothing changes. However, this is where you are wrong. Treatment is a lengthy process. You might be tempted to quit, but don’t.


Counseling has a purpose. It may help you understand yourself and develop strategies to handle anxiety, anger, sadness, or other mental health difficulties, or it can simply keep you on track with your goals.


  1. Counseling Is Tough For a Reason
  2. Painful Emotions are Overcome by Feeling Them
  3. You’ll Get Better 
  4. Final Thoughts


Counseling is Tough for a Reason


If counseling was enjoyable, everyone would seek it out! Unfortunately, successful treatment sometimes means delving deep into your mind and brain — and exposing what may be some terrible memories and sentiments hidden there.


When you think of your therapist's office, does your stomach turn and your palms go clammy? That's a positive indication (if you're working with a skilled therapist - here's how to tell). Don't feel bad if you're nervous about confronting your most vulnerable feelings.


However, do not cancel your appointments. Few individuals enjoy laying their hearts on the table, yet emotional honesty is required for a therapeutic partnership.


You might be thinking that the counseling isn’t even working. You've been discussing the same subjects for three weeks: your strained relationship with your sister or your work stress. It's difficult. It can even be tedious at times. The sessions are a reminder. If you're still talking about the same subject, it means there's something unresolved that has to be handled. Spending more time in counseling, will assist you in determining the facts of the matter.


Painful Emotions are Overcome by Feeling Them


You go through difficult feelings in counseling (and yes, that can be tough). However, going through these difficult emotions with the help of a competent expert will make your life easier in the long term.


Assume you've been through a painful occurrence in the past. Your brain developed shortcuts to bypass this memory over time, so you don't have to worry about it. However, these shortcuts create their own difficulties, such as PTSD, anxiety, or aggression disorders. The only way to reorganize your brain and solve the problem is to go through the memories with the help of a mental health expert.


This procedure is a disaster. Nothing is more awful than reliving your ugliest, most horrific memories - often several times. However, the advantages are considerable. So, even though it hurts, keep going to treatment especially if it’s painful. 


You’ll Get Better


Counseling will not always be unpleasant. In fact, you’ll start to feel better over time. There are several advantages to attending online counseling consistently. Every week, you'll have a built-in spot to offload your anxieties. You'll discover how to face new obstacles with grace. And the mental health issues you wished to address, such as anxiety or depression, will improve with time as well.


But those accomplishments need suffering through the difficult, unpleasant aspects of therapy... and not giving up. Except for the first morning, you wake up anxiety-free, there is no finer feeling than the sense of success that a good therapy session may provide. Unpacking all the clutter that has accumulated in your mind takes time and effort, and it is not always enjoyable. However, it is worthwhile.


Final Thoughts


You shouldn’t give up. Counseling is hard and we know it can be. You’re doing the right thing though. It wasn’t meant to be easy for a reason. You have to overcome your insecurities, fear, and painful experiences. This is how you’ll make progress towards recovery.


 Despite how difficult it can be, it’s the first step you can take to improve your life.

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